“Doing good holds the power to transform us on the inside, and then ripple out in ever-expanding circles that positively impact the world at large.” — Shari Arison
No matter what energy you put out into the world, you get the same energy back. That’s how energy works. It’s vibrational. Harmonious with one another. Think about it this way. Like attracts like. And considering that all thought is energy in its purest form, whatever energy you push out, you’ll get back. A single thought moves from synapse to synapse in the neurons of our mind. A single thought fires through a string of controlled, pre-defined circuits that elicit an emotional response.
That thought produces a result. An emotion. And, in turn, some sort of behavior emerges. A love thought might lead to a kiss. A pain thought might lead to tears. And an angry thought might lead to resentment or depression or smoking a cigarette. But this isn’t just soliciting a response in you. You attract that same energy. When you’re angry, you attract anger in all its forms. When you’re happy, you attract happiness in the people all around you.
I know it sounds wishy-washy and idealistic, but you really do get what you put out into the world. Ever walk down the street just steaming mad and you notice another person who’s scouring at you? It happens all the time. I know it happens to me. I know that I feel reverberations of any thought that I’m holding at the forefront of my mind. And you want to know the truth? Thoughts are things. What you think, you become.
You Get What You Put Out There
I could probably sit here and list off hundreds of reasons why you get what you put out into the world, but I wanted to relate this more in the form of a story. Let me explain. Not so long ago, a business that I had worked on for 3 years fell apart after a dispute with my business partner. Let’s just say that this resulted in a fair amount of pain. The crazy thing is that this is a business that I created and built, from the ground up.
When you build a business, it’s like raising a baby. I’d argue that it takes an equal amount of time and energy to rear both. So when things fell apart, I was arguably distraught. Devastated might be a better word. I’d really liken this to losing a child. It was like having a limb chopped off. The funny thing is that this ex-business partner of mine went out there and incorporated a brand new business in Delaware roughly a week after this all happened.
Through all of this, I had two choices. I could wallow and weep forever. Or, I could do something positive. Thankfully, I live off passive income, so it wasn’t a financial strain on me whatsoever. In fact, I wasn’t even taking a salary from that business, whereas my ex-business partner had his house, car and all his bills paid for by the company, plus a salary on top of that. Since he wasn’t financially stable when we started, I was okay with that at the behest of getting that business off the ground.
So I started reaching out to some of the most successful people in the business and marketing world. People like Russell Brunson, Howard Panes, Roland Frasier and others, and I started helping them. I wrote Forbes and Entrepreneur Magazine articles about them, relating their story to the world in a way that would give maximum exposure. As one of the top contributors to those platforms, this gave me a massive transference of trust. I’m thankful and grateful for that.
I wasn’t quite sure where that would lead. I just knew that if I put good energy out there into the world, I would eventually get it to come back. I just didn’t know what that would translate into. But the crazy thing is that out of that came something extraordinary. It’s interesting what happens when you go out there and help other people without looking for something in return. Because, through that, you definitely get what you put out right back. It just might not happen right away. But it does happen.
The ‘Cycle’
I recently heard Russell Brunson say something on a Marketing Secrets podcast that caught my attention. He was talking about ‘cycling.’ No, not the bicycle kind of cycling. I’m talking about the success-to-failure cycle, or loop. If you haven’t cycled at least once, then something is wrong. Maybe you’re not taking enough risks and you’re playing it too safe. Or, maybe you’ve just never had to experience massive failure.
However, my point here is that it’s okay to fail. However, it’s not really failure unless you give up. If you just throw in the towel and call it quits, then, sure, it might be the end. But there’s a reason why everyone should cycle (or fail) at least once. You learn more through failure. You grow Mature. Reach new understandings. And something changes inside of you. It’s one of the most humbling experiences you could possibly go through.
But if you’ve never cycled, you might be playing it too safe. And if you’re playing it safe, you might not be getting what you put out into the world. Those who play it safe don’t often take many risks. They don’t like to rock the proverbial boat. Status quo is okay with them. Hopefully that’s not you, but if it is, get out there and take risks, add value and do great things for other people without the expectation of anything in return.
My point in telling you all of this is that when things collapsed, my business partner and I went our separate ways. I cycled. Again. He didn’t, apparently, because he just kept on going, even though we had a non-compete agreement. That didn’t matter to him. Plus, I found out 7 or 8 months later that he was suing me and that he never served me in that lawsuit. Like a snake in the grass, he did this slyly. Under wraps. Like a thief in the dead of the night.
When I found out, I reached out to someone who I respect a great deal and informed him of the situation. Since I was being sued in San Diego, I needed a local attorney there. Even though I was some 7,000 miles away in Europe, it didn’t matter. I had to deal with it or risk a potential new venture I was looking to roll out. So I reached out to someone who I had helped who stepped up and got the situation resolved.
That person’s name is Roland Frasier. He’s probably one of the smartest marketers in the world. He’s the co-founder of Digital Marketer, CEO of War Room Mastermind, and a principal in a slew of other companies. He runs intensives all over the world, and with a single message he’s had people bending over backwards to help me. I never realized who he was before. I just knew he was Ryan Deiss’s business partner at Digital Marketer.
In fact, when I asked a friend, Justin Anderson, about him, he shed light on who he was. Only then did I realize who I was dealing with. But what I also realized was that he was one of the most well-connected people in the world. He introduced me to people like Frank Kern, Dean Graziosi, Kent Clothier, Jason Fladlien, and some of the most influential and well-known people in the business and marketing world. For that, and for him, I am forever grateful.
How To Shift Your Focus
So what do you think would have happened if I had just put out negative energy to the world. Do you think i would have gotten what I put out there, right back? Sure I would have. That’s how energy works. You get what you put out into the world because thought waves are energy that vibrate at a specific frequency. That frequency attracts similar frequencies to it. That’s why happy people attract other happy people and angry people attract other angry people.
Now, in my situation, had I focused on trying to destroy my ex-business partner, which I could have easily done, I would have never met people like Roland Frasier, Howard Panes and Kent Clothier, who I’m grateful to call my friends today. I would have been so immersed in that situation that all my energy would have gone towards dealing with that negative situation. In fact, when I did learn what was going on, I was able to turn to those same people and quickly resolve that situation.
Yes, I got back what I put out into the world because that’s just how the world works. Think about your own life and situations in the past. What situations did you put out good energy and attract the right people or situations into your life? When you pray or focus on deep-rooted belief of good things to come, you’re sending out positive energy out into the world. Everything is connected. Everything. So it vibrates through the universal oneness that binds us all and it comes back.
You see, I feel sorry for people like my ex-business partner. The focus in people like that is all negative at the expense of others. Even when people bend backwards to help them, they act in a cut-throat fashion. They might think that’s getting them ahead in the short-term, but that comes quickly back around to eventually haunt them. Now, I don’t wish anything bad on anyone. I really and truly don’t. But that’s just how things work. Call it karma or whatever have you. It’s just the way of the world.
So, I’d say to shift your focus. Don’t concentrate on the negative. Focus on the positive. Learn. Grow. Understand. Mature. Emanate love from every fiber of your being and help others. Watch how extraordinary things unfold in your life. It truly is one of the most remarkable things that I’ve ever witnessed. And i would highly recommend you do this. If you’re angry at someone or resentful, let it go. Release that energy. Shift your focus. Find the good in a bad situation.
Focus On Contribution
I promise you that if you go out there and you add value and work for free and help others, you’ll forget about the bad things that happened to you. Focus on gratitude. Be grateful every moment of the day. Because, one moment you’re here, and the next moment you’re six feet under. Never forget that. All things are temporary and you will only experience what you focus on. So focus on contribution.
Even if you think you have very little to offer, go out there and give something of yourself to others. Even if it’s just donating your time. Go help someone. Go find people that you can add value to. Contribute to their lives. Make the world a better place. If you’re trying to excel in business, find the most successful people in your industry and help them. Do it for free. Forget about money for a while. It’s far better to go out there and just give without the expectation of anything in return and watch what unfolds.
There’s something about doing this. There’s just nothing like it. Not only does it feel good, but there’s a shift of focus. When you contribute, you send a deep signal to your mind that there’s more than enough of whatever it is that you have or need. Because, when you help others, that’s exactly what happens. And when you sow those seeds, you eventually reap the rewards. Don’t focus on getting revenge or getting even. Instead, turn that energy into something you can channel and use it to help others.
If you have someone in your life that’s draining you, get rid of them. Make a change. Decide right now. It doesn’t take much effort. It’s just a decision. You can decide to do something in an instant. In a moment, you can make the decision that will change the trajectory and quality of your life forever. Do it. Don’t wait another moment because in this world, you will always get whatever it is that you put out there. So put out goodness and kindness and help others. Then, watch as the magic unfolds. Not right away. But eventually, over time.